Recent moments:
1) Went bowling on Sunday night. There are some universal constants, I continue to find out. For example, bowling alleys in both the US and HK:
a) Have shoes in US sizes that are so garishly awesome that you want to steal them.
b) Have electronic dart boards (the first time I have seen them in HK)
c) Are buried in the basements of buildings
d) Only serve cheap beer. I wish I could have enjoyed said beer, but it's 5 days to the end of my month of alcohol fasting.
2) I have gone out a few times during the month of fasting, but it's not the same. Beer is the great social lubricant, and lime sodas just aren't the same. Maybe if I smoked (more), it would be different, something to do while talking. Last night, I met a friend out, and he was with a few friends who I have met before. The first was one guy who is an animal rights advocate, who knows a member of my family kills small vicious furry animals for a living. He proceeded to question me about what I thought about it. It was more inquisitive than confrontational, but still, not something you want to do on an extended basis in a social setting if you're not lubricated. And then afterwards, an outspoken Brit started to grill me on why I thought Obama could win in November. And then lecture me on why Obama could not win. And then interrogate me on America's role in the world.
Maybe I could handle this if I was on my third Hoegaarden. After a grueling day at work, the last thing I want to do is argue politics. I've said in the past that moving overseas brings out nationalist tendencies that I never felt before. People love to criticize the #1, and if you're American, it's quite easy to do right now. (Which now that I think about it, it doesn't surprise me about the nationalist fervor by overseas Chinese recently regarding Tibet and the Olympic torch relay. If you are an overseas student and people are constantly ripping what your country is doing, it's only natural you want to stand up after constant pounding on the place you call home.)
But I can't handle it drinking lime sodas. After an hour I bailed. Said Brit was a former navy guy who is always outspoken. But damn, what happened to conversation while drinking, instead of argument? Sometimes, because people find out what I do for my job, all they want to do is talk politics and foreign policy and heavier, newsier events. And because I'm American, it's like I have this bullseye on my back for similar things.
But I really do not want to sit there, sober, arguing - and I mean arguing - politics for an hour with a semi-drunk Brit. It's like being at work, but only taking all the negative parts of work and concentrating it. It's been nearly a year since my friend Geoff died, and I remembered what I loved doing with him: going to a bar and having friendly conversations about music and baseball. Congenial talks about things we loved, but conversations that would let me not think about politics or the news or foreign policy. Conversations that were fun, not taxing. Chalk this up to things I miss about the states: Going to the Nisei tap after or before a Cubs game with Jason or Greg Or Alyse or any of my season ticket comrades or neighbors, getting a beer on tap, and talking baseball for an hour. Because a bar is where you relax, not where you get wound up.
3) While it is hot and steamy b/c the rainy season has started, there is something relaxing about waking up most mornings at 9am to the sound or rain pouring against your window.